All over the world has some
type of stressors rather it is violence, disease, hungry, or war. We all learn
how to deal with these types of issues in our lives. As a young child I would
wish that someone would take me away due to the violence I experienced growing up.
The violence I experienced was the physical abuse from my father. My father was
an alcoholic and if I did not follow rules or do the chores they asked I was
beaten with whatever my father found. I
remembered a time when my parents were called into school for a parent teacher
conference and they explained to my parents that I need extra help in my comprehension. My father stated that “my children are not
going to be dumb children and he will fix it” and this started to be the worse
childhood experience I would ever face.
I would have to sit on the edge of my parent’s bed and read to my dad a
book that was above my age level. Once I
started reading this book if I ever said a word wrong, my father would take the
belt buckle across my back until I pronounce the word correctly. When I would go to bed every night I would
wish that someone who take me away. Once
I became an adult and starting having children I thought I would never treat my
children how I was treated as a child; but what I found myself in was a relationship
of an abusive husband that never remembered anything. After five years I decided I had enough of
this and I was finally going to get help and did. Just like many other places around us all suffer
from sometime of abuse. In the US one woman
is abused every 15 seconds. India has 40%
of woman report physical assaults. One of every six murder committed in Sweden
was done by a man murdering his wife. So
many place experiences this same time of abuse and we still today can find ways
to help prevent this from happening. We
all try to change how we are from a child but some seem to find the same
pathway just as if they were still living in violence. Some can change their path but so many of
them feel that can’t break free but I did break free. It may have taken two marriages and three
kids later but I no longer live in fear and wonder if I’m going to wake up with
a black eye. I hope that someday we all
will be able to notice abuse before it gets out of hand and be able to help
those in need.
Getting back on the blogs to respond to others I realized that part of my blogs did not get add after I cut and paste from my word doc. So this is the rest of my blog:
ReplyDeleteAs I think about how this affected my life growing up, I feel as if I conquered the world. As a child I did not have a lot of friends because of the abuse I closed up my feeling and teacher would tell my mom was that I was a very quiet person. In the biosocial development progress I feel that due to the abuse that my comprehension issues where related to the abuse growing up. The cognitive development progress of my growth in life I don’t feel as it was affected in any way I could see. With all my teachers in school I feel as if my education development was fine. In the psychosocial development progress during my development I could remember playing house by myself and I was the mom and set up all my dolls as my children. In school I don’t really remember much about playing with other children. I can remember stories about me always playing by myself. After all this I think that the abuse allowed me to become the best mom and know the importance of my children learning to explore the world. As my children grew up I learned the importance in support them and encouraging them to explore the world.
I am sorry to hear that you had to go through such a tramatic childhood and marriage. I am glad to see that you are healing, I say that because you can talk about it. Abuse is the one thing I found is hard for women to talk about, even worse leave an abusive relationship. Abuse is more than physical, it is emotional and mental. Thank you for sharing.
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